The effect of good long term relationships

There’s a bit of relationship hating in the community. Everyone wants a fuckbuddy, or a harem. Loving relationships are rarely discussed, either open or closed.
I found that the thing that most profoundly changed me was an amazing relationship that I was in. It made me more sexual, more confident, more manly and better at pickup. I’ll explain:

Sexual experience
- getting comfortable with sexual tension (i used to hate it in PU). This time everytime I see my GF walk through the door I get a hard on. But I don’t drag her to my room and fuck her! There is a slight process of:
- constant re-seduction – making the other person horny and wanting sex almost turns into a game. An old FB of mine used to come over and hang, and when she got bored, rode me until I was ready to fuck the shit out of her. With guys doing it to girls it’s more subtle, but again very PU related.
- Getting better in bed
- Sexual presence – happens when you realize girls really like sex and hence it is OK to show your sex loving side all the time.
- Eliminate sexual neediness- relevant to open/FB relationships only, but still very powerful.

Emotional intimacy
- Understanding a woman’s world
- Being able to connect with her
- Liking her despite of her weaknesses or even because she had the courage to expose them.
- Treating a girl like a puzzle you want to solve.
- Treating a girl like a project, someone who you want to help achieve their goals.

All of these translate to a warming up of your personality. Some can be achieved by very close friendship relationships, but that wouldn’t (of course) include the sex part.

Understanding women
There is no man who attracts 9s and 10s but who all other girls find unattractive. Women are women, period. And being in a close relationship with a women makes you understand their psyche so much better. You’ll see them when they’re up and when they’re down. You’ll slowly see the shell of coolness they let everyone be fooled by, drop to show insecurities you never thought would be there. And you learn how to heal them and make them feel better.
Yes, you’ll receive your share of drama in relationships. And as with every relationship you’d have to compromise. And learn.

Validation – constantly reminded that there is a girl attracted to you. Hence, you are attractive to girls.

Ability to try PU ideas on your girl – like a safe environment, she will not dump you for negging her too hard! Everything from dirty texts to frames can be practiced.

Fashion ideas – most likely the girl will start grooming you so you would look more presentable, and mention when you’re not (as your image reflects on hers). This is constructive criticism.

Get a steady girl, I say. Get close to her physically and emotionally and improve your attract and rapport abilities. This will be a beautiful experience of getting closer to another person, as well as a very rewarding one.

QBall